Why 'Sucking' is Awesome

[dropcap type="1"]W[/dropcap]hat if 'sucking' really bad was really awesome? After reading this, you'll understand why you'll want to 'suck' more frequently than you do.

Earning More

I work with population of people in challenging situations. All have been incarcerated recently. All are parents. Many had a poor education experience and are low skilled. Mix in a history of substance abuse, poor habits, and a shaky support system and you have a cocktail of barriers tough for anyone to swallow.

As a career coach, my job is to help them find a job and keep it, regardless of the obstacles they face. It's tough enough as it is, but I've come to realize that finding them employment still won't do "the job" in the long run.

A job keeps them on the hamster wheel spinning indefinitely so I have to find a way for them to earn more from less effort so they can be more in control of their circumstances and their lives. What's the benefit of our service if they have one or two jobs, are still struggling, and are never home with their families?

My colleagues and I have to offer participants more than employment, but what else can we do? Sure we offer housing, financial and legal services, but it's still not enough to keep them out of poverty. What's missing?

Skills To Pay The Bills

People are simply lacking the skills to monetize and thrive. If people do have valuable skills to offer, then they're lacking some other skill required to make the most out of their situation.

Let's define skill before I continue. I love Wikipedia's definition:

A skill is the learned ability to carry out pre-determined results often with the minimum outlay of time, energy, or both.

Many people I know (not just our clients) have valuable skills to offer the world. They have skills that could be useful in other industries and sectors other than their own, but since they don't fully realize the value they hold, they lack the skills to communicate that value to others who could benefit, thus missing out on opportunities day after day. You don't have to be someone with a ton of barriers to lack the necessary skills to advance and grow.

For example, let's say you have a skill that gets specific results, but you lack the ability to market that particular skill to others. You can do 'X' (skill) well and it produces results, but what if you don't know your own market value (skill) and cannot communicate (skill) your value to others? Or, let's say that you can communicate (skill) and market (skill) your value to others, but you're a lousy negotiator (skill) so you're not likely to get the best possible outcome for yourself.

So what's the problem?

Are people simply low or no skilled in critical areas that produce an income that would place them in middle class range, and out of poverty?

Are people learning the wrong skills or are they ignorant of the skills that produce ongoing income while building assets?

Maybe people are great at one skill (producing income), but lousy at a complementary skill (managing their money)?

Maybe people just don't understand the right combination of skills that would produce amazing results for them?

Skills are obviously a huge component of the solution, so how do we tackle the problem of low skills? What's the right approach? What's the best solution to implement that gets someone from low or no skilled to a level of competence that produces consistent results?

Marketable Skills

The first step to acquiring the 'right' skills is in identifying what they are. There must be a list of valuable skills that EVERYONE must have to get the most out of life. A list of general skills that allow one to earn money, work with others, manage their lives, enjoy the fruits of their labor, and grow personally and professionally.

Here's a short list of absolutely necessary life skills:

General Skills

Communication: Listening, reading, writing, and speaking.

Relationships: Likeability, connecting, empathy, resolving conflict, mediation, team building, and trust.

Organization: Punctuality, prioritizing, cleanliness, order, systems, and management.

Challenges: Identifying and understanding problems, critical thinking, creative problem solving, pattern recognition, and follow-through.

Finance: Managing money, spending, saving, investing, and building assets.

Personal: Focus, concentration, will power, persistence, creativity, developing habits, exercise, eating healthy, physical skills and labor, movement, emotional releasing, forgiveness, etc.

I believe all these are MUST HAVE skills if people are to maximize their experience on this planet. (I'm sure I left a lot off the list, so if you have suggestions please put them in the comments section, and I will fill the list out some more.)

Every skill has levels or degrees of competency. Think of how martial arts uses belts to demonstrate varying skill levels - white belt (low skill level) to black belt (high skill level). You may be a white belt in saving money, but hold a black belt in spending it. Probably not a good skill combination, but something to be aware of.

Let's talk about some skills that will make you money, regardless of the work or industry you're involved in.

Marketable Skills

Marketing: Knowing how to effectively communicate the benefits and advantages of a single person or an entire business so that the market WANTS to take access that person's ability or that business' product or service will always be a valuable skill. Whether you're using this skill on your behalf or for someone else it will always be in demand.

Specialized marketing skills include: Writing resumes, interviewing, professional dress & appearance (yes, it's a skill), copywriting, selling and closing deals, branding, and conducting presentations that influence people to act.

Organization: The whole idea behind organizing is to get things done faster and more efficiently. Getting things done and being productive will always be in-demand, but what are the skills associated with organization?

Setting goals, creating systems and checklists, managing those systems, prioritizing tasks and goals, strategy and pattern recognition, decision making, task management, and producing outcomes or results.

Technology: We live in a digital world where thing change so fast, so it makes sense to get with the program or get left behind. Unfortunately many of our participants are way behind when it comes to using technology.

Email, internet, MS Office (Word, Powerpoint, Outlook, and Excel), Google Docs and search engines, social media, content creation and strategy, programming & coding, and research.

What if you suck?

What if you suck at making money? You suck at creating value for others? You suck at solving problems? You suck at building a solid network of supporters? You suck at communicating your value? You suck at being on time? What if you also suck at dressing professionally?

There's an obvious solution. If you suck, then your job is to un-suck yourself. You do that by learning skills that will produce awesome results for you and others.

And how do you learn those skills? By practicing them consistently.

Easy, right? Then why are people struggling? Why are people still so pathetically low skilled?

Because they're not practicing consistently.

"Brilliant Paul, just brilliant."

Ok, don't get all cynical with me just yet, let's look a little deeper first. Why aren't people practicing or learning these skills consistently?

Let's assume people know the EXACT skills they must have that will make them money on a regular basis. Let's say these skills have been identified as the general skill-set that everyone MUST have to prosper in today's economy.

Now it's time to practice some of these skills, and here's what you can expect:

If you haven't practiced a skill before, you're going to suck at it.

You may suck bad, or suck not so bad (hopefully you got some talent to minimize the sucking), but right before you start to get some competence in any particular skill, you QUIT.

You were so excited before you began. You REALLY wanted to learn spanish. You wanted to learn how to water ski. You wanted to learn how to network with business professionals. You wanted to learn MS Office, particularly Powerpoint so you can blow people away with your presentation skills.

And guess what? Before you could get anywhere with that new skill, you dropped it.

And you know why you dropped it? Because you SUCKED at it, and you knew it. Who wants to suck?? Nobody does.

But now we have a problem. By not 'sucking', you cannot learn that new skill. You are forever doomed to white belt. You are still crawling, not yet walking, and very far from running.

Can you imagine? A baby giving up on walking and saying, "Screw this. I'll just crawl for life. This ain't so bad."

Can you imagine a world of crawlers, everywhere? "Hey, don't step on me..." *crunch*

That's what happens to low skilled people. They're still crawling in a world of walkers and runners getting stepped or being climbed over.

Remember how you learned to walk? One day you just got up and fell down. You did it again and again. Slowly you kept your balance. You took a step, and fell down. You got up again, and fell again. But now you're walking. You may be clumsy, but you're walking.

You're walking because you went through 'suck' to get there. You didn't mind 'sucking' for so long because you were determined to walk. You were willing to deal with the 'suck' phase of acquiring the skill of walking. You were willing to look silly. You were willing to fall, and fall again. You were willing to deal with the snickering of those bastards that were entertained from all your trips and falls.

Ok, maybe not all that, but you get the point.

Now you're older, and you forgot that acquiring any skill worth learning has its 'suck phase'. You're so much more aware of the snickers and comments now, even if they're not there you'll make some up. You're sure the laughing in the background is directed at you as you make a fool of yourself.

You don't want to be vulnerable or look stupid, but it costs you. It's costing you money. It's costing you growth. It's costing you an awesome life.

Not willing to 'suck' is leading you to mediocrity. Not 'sucking' is giving you a life full of 'suck'.

Why 'Sucking' Is Awesome

Acquiring any skill requires you to go through the 'suck phase'. Sucking leads to competence. Competence gives you confidence. Confidence builds trust, not only within but with others.

Remember this:

Sucking is mandatory yet temporary in ALL skill acquisition.

In Josh Kaufman's book, "The Personal MBA" he talks about how long it takes to acquire proficiency in any skill. You know how much time you need to devote to learning a new skill?

20 hours.

Yup, 20 hours, and you know how long you'll suck during those 20 hours?

4 hours.

Just four. Of course that's just an average. It could be 2-3 hours if you're talented, or it could be 4-6 if you're not, but once you get pass the 'suck phase', something will *click* and things will become easier. Things will slow down. You are now out of the demoralizing crawl zone and have taken your first steps toward walking. It's only a matter of time before you start walking competently and confidently, and eventually running with abandon.

Application

If having the necessary skills plays a big role in being self-sufficient, then acquiring skills in the fastest, most humane way possible is needed more than ever. This requires a great system, great feedback, and the burning desire to walk like a baby who's fed up with crawling.

How many times have you said you're going to learn a foreign language?

How many times have you said you're going to write a book?

How many times have you said you're going to learn how to fix cars?

How many times have you said you're going to learn how to make some extra money on the side?

How many times have you said you're going to lose weight, gain more muscle, and have the body of a god/goddess?

How many times have you said you're going to learn how to tango, build websites, or scuba dive?

You start off hot with desire, then you suck, and then...... you quit.

I know, because I've gone through this process. Every question asked is directed to myself. People quit for all kinds of reasons, but I think the biggest is that people just don't wanna suck. I hate sucking.

But I never realized how 'sucking' leads to everything I want. If I can get through the 'suck phase' of learning any skill, if WE can just get pass those first 4-5 hours we're practically home free.

Join me

Pick a skill you want to learn.

Commit to doing it for at least 4 hours.

Commit to sucking bad for 4 hours, and don't give up until those 4 hours are complete.

You will WITHOUT A DOUBT learn something new.

With new skills, who knows? Maybe we can live more abundantly and put an end to poverty? Maybe we can develop new technologies and lessen the footprint we have on this planet? Maybe we can have healthier relationships and families and stronger communities?

Let's create a skill movement. How about an official 'I Suck Day' where everybody does something new, and sticks to it for 4 hours?

I'll find a way to implement this systematically at work. I don't know what that looks like, but it's going to happen.

What will you do? What will you learn?

Whatever you do, one thing's for certain.

You will suck. I will suck. Because it's by 'sucking' that we eliminate the 'suck' from our lives.

Update

Speaking of 'sucking', chapter 2 of my book is live on alienaesop.com. I know it can be improved, and the rewrite will be so welcome when I get more time to focus on it. I also plan on bringing an editor into the fray to guide me. I'll let you know when that happens.

Video is on the horizon, too. I know I've been talking about it, but it's coming. I know I suck on video, but there's only one way to get better, right??

It's October, so enjoy the change in seasons. More to come soon.

Paul "embracing the suck" Campillo


Economic Empowerment

[dropcap type="2"]C[/dropcap]hapter 1 of Alien Aesop is now LIVE. This week I'm going to share some details about my "day job" and some projects I'm currently working on because it's not only instructive, but relevant to everything else I'm doing.

Today's topic of "economic empowerment" is so appropriate given my goal to have $50,000 in the bank by this time next year.Without further ado...

My Work

I currently work in the Economic Empowerment division of Rubicon Programs. Our job is to help folks transform from struggling economically to being economically empowered. What is 'economic empowerment'? Let's define both terms using the dictionary.

Economy:

economy |iˈkänəmē|

noun ( pl. economies )

1 the wealth and resources of a country or region, esp. in terms of the production and consumption of goods and services.

• a particular system or stage of an economy: a free-market economy | the less-developed economies.

2 careful management of available resources: even heat distribution and fuel economy.

ORIGIN late 15th cent. (in the sense ‘management of material resources’): from French économie, or via Latin from Greek oikonomia ‘household management,’ based on oikos ‘house’ + nemein ‘manage.’ Current senses date from the 17th cent.

Empowerment:

empower |emˈpou(-ə)r|

verb [ with obj. and infinitive ]

give (someone) the authority or power to do something: nobody was empowered to sign checks on her behalf.

• [ with obj. ] make (someone) stronger and more confident, esp. in controlling their life and claiming their rights: movements to empower the poor.

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Taking those two definitions and creatively merging them together I now define Economic Empowerment as:

Having the authority, power, and confidence to manage your resources to live life the way YOU choose.

Do you want to live life on your terms? Then you must learn to take control of your resources (finances, assets, health, and time) and manage them in a way that produces results and supports your goals. Doing this WELL is being economically empowered.

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How does Rubicon help someone become economically empowered? By offering a variety of services designed to get a participant on the road back to economic stability, and eventually to economic empowerment. These services include career coaching, housing coaching, legal services, financial coaching, and substance abuse services.

Career coaches help people discover their value and market that value to potential employers. Once work has been established, and someone has an income, then the housing and financial coaches get involved. If there are legal issues or drug problems that get in the way of reaching goals, then those services are rendered to participants.

Every coach and service provided at Rubicon is designed to help an individual eliminate any and all barriers to the ultimate goal of economic empowerment.

The most common barriers are:

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  • Mindset - The assumptions and beliefs that people have to approaching relationships, work, money, and health are NOT getting them the results they say they want. A new perspective and approach is warranted.
  • Attitude - If you have a bad attitude, then it can be very difficult for anyone to work with you. Whom would you rather deal with? A person with a bad attitude or a good one?
  • Legal Issues - Do you realize how difficult it is to find work with a criminal record? You may have the attitude that someone who commits crimes doesn't deserve to work, but do you see how that kind of thinking leads to more crime? People who are creating value in the world for others will decrease crime rates. People need to work.
  • Skills - Low or no skills is not something that can be fixed right away. It takes time, planning, and concentration to grow the right skill-set that is valuable to others.
  • Housing - This is obvious. If you don't have a place to call home, you think it's going to be easy to find and sustain work? How about the stress that this creates? People need housing.
  • Habits - We first make our habits, then our habits make us. Habits are behaviors that re-occur without consciously thinking about them. The only problem is that behaviors ALWAYS lead to results. If your current results are the opposite of what you're wanting, then you'd better train some new habits NOW or it's going to be a long, difficult life.
  • Transportation - If you don't have money or resources, how do you get to that job you want to apply for? How do you get to work? Transportation is a huge barrier for someone that have very little resources to spare.
  • Clothing - Ok, you got the interview, you have the job, and now they need you to look a certain way. You need the proper attire so you don't make a bad impression or sent home from the job.
  • Bad Credit - How do you get into an apartment with bad credit? How do you buy a car with budget-friendly financing options? Your purchasing choices diminish for every point you don't have on your credit score AND increases the likelihood of you paying more money in the end.

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This is a sample of some of the issues that many of our participants face. Some have a few of these barriers, and some have all of them. Whatever obstacles they face, our job is to help them eliminate them one by one.

This is goal setting & getting 101. You set a goal, and every goal has barriers to overcome. The more difficult the goal is, the more barriers that person will have to overcome. Climbing Mt. Everest is significantly more difficult than running up a hill. Running up a hill requires less preparation, less planning, less training, etc.

You're much more likely to accomplish your goals with a competent team behind you versus doing it on your own. Strategy, hustle, and accountability is what Rubicon offers to individuals. That's the difference.

Workshops

The Financial Opportunity Center (F.O.C.) Workshop is offered to eligible participants once a month. It's a two week workshop that addresses many of the barriers people will face on their path to economic empowerment. Sample workshop modules include personal branding, crafting a resume that gets you interviews, building assets with your current income, dressing for success, communication and empathy, consumer law, and so much more.

The idea is to arm them with the tools, resources, and information that will increase their odds of finding work, getting housing, job retention, and building a strong financial foundation.

Risk & Growth

I've been working at Rubicon for just over 9 weeks, and it's been an incredible learning experience. I don't know if I've ever experienced work that's been challenging, enjoyable, and where no two days are EVER alike. But the time has come to throw my ideas out there, and see if I can outdo my success in Seattle.

I'm currently working as a Re-Entry Career Coach. My job is to work with the formerly incarcerated and help them find and retain work. I'm also to facilitate certain parts of the workshops we conduct.

Recently it was decided to have two workshops running concurrently, the regular F.O.C. Workshop and a workshop geared towards the re-entry population. The Re-entry Workshop has the same goal of economic empowerment, but sprinkled with additional niche specific modules. It's also a little more intensive and in depth on certain topics.

Since I will be facilitating parts of the new workshop, there's opportunity to develop curriculum and improve the existing one. Thinking about this gets me excited, and I'm reminded of when I was researching Rubicon before I started working there and came across their values list. Innovation was on that list, and it's one of the reasons I felt good about continuing the process of working with them.

When ever I see the word INNOVATION, I envision a company or organization that is at least OPEN to improving and growing. I'm glad to report that they're doing more than just giving lip service. The place is constantly bustling with changes and improvements. So if I see a way to improve the existing curriculum or deliver it, then I'm encouraged to organize and present my ideas.

Presenting ideas is a personal/professional challenge. If I don't make myself vulnerable to criticism and rejection, then I can never reach my full potential in work and in life. Risk is necessary for growth, and it's my own security that's always at risk whether it's the security of my comfort zone, economic security, or my reputation. When I decide to grow, I'm deciding to risk something.

This trek into the unknown requires vulnerability, and the unknown is where my best self resides - not the known. It's like that for you, too. Your best self is not known to you. You don't know her (or him), yet.

So it's time to take risks and put my best ideas out there. Sure, I use this blog to make myself vulnerable, but like anything, there are new levels of vulnerability that I will have to pass through to experience the fullness of life.

The Economic Empowerment Equation

I woke up the other day, out of a dream with three big ideas that will lead anyone to economic empowerment. For some time, I've been thinking about the context of the workshop and how to better articulate this to participants. The problem of economic empowerment and how people get there must've been lodged in my subconscious, and it finally presented a solution.

Anyway, this is what came to me...

EE EquationPersonal Power

Personal Power is the result of understanding who and what you are, and HOW you make things happen in the world. This is important because everything starts with you. It's about responsibility, integrity, keeping agreements, staying healthy, using your mind properly, and actualizing your full potential. It's about having vision and allowing that vision to inspire you each day.

If you don't understand who you are, how YOU operate, and how the world works, then it'll be an extremely difficult ride through life.

Get to know yourself and find out how to build your self-esteem FIRST. Learn your idiosyncrasies and put yourself in the best position to win. Rely on your strengths and develop your talents.

You were designed to actualize your potential because a half grown tree that bears no fruit is of no use to anyone.

Creating Value

Creating Value happens when you help someone change how people FEEL and that's why the symbol for creating value is the HEART. You can change how someone feels when you offer to CONNECT, ENTERTAIN, ORGANIZE, and SUPPORT. I recently wrote an article titled "How to be the MVP of your world" (the link will take you to the article). It's about how people create value for one another and was recently picked up by Google News.

If you become a master at creating value, you would never go without and EVERYONE creates value to some degree, but we can ALL improve, scale, or increase the quality of the value we deliver to one another.

I got this concept beat into my head over and over again by Jay Abraham. I first began reading and listening to him back in the late 90's and his ideas have deeply influenced my life and work.

Here's a short video of Jay giving a seminar in Japan. One woman took the advice from this one segment and earned $1.3 million dollars. Notice one word that comes up over and over again as he's explaining: CONNECT.

Building Assets

If you're exercising your Personal Power and Creating Value in the world, then the next step in economic empowerment is Building Assets. If you spend away everything you earn OR connect with someone one day and never follow-up with them OR you don't use your mind/body to its fullest potential then the process of building your assets and becoming wealthy cannot be achieved.

There are two types of assets: Tangible and Intangible. Tangible Assets (TA) are material resources, property, real estate, savings, stocks, bonds, businesses, art, collections and other investments. Intangible Assets (IA) are things like your health, special qualities about you, it could be a special skill or talent, specialized knowledge, your network, or a unique perspective or approach to life/business/relationships that no one else has.

(IA) creates (TA), then (TA) helps reinforce and develop more (IA).

As you're building assets, you will begin to accumulate wealth. Wealth is more than (TA) obviously. You could have billions of dollars worth of assets, but what good is all that if you're 40 years old and on your deathbed? Your health will always be your biggest asset and is one of the biggest indicators of how truly wealthy you are.

Updates

As I develop more ideas around my presentation for the workshops at work, I'll share them here. The concepts I'm working on are applicable to many people, not just a select few.

A couple of months ago I would've never written about economic empowerment, so the career path I've chosen for myself is having the effect on my life that was originally intended. I am also developing skills and strengths that will benefit me for decades to come, so I couldn't be happier about how this is all working out.

I've begun work on chapter 2 of Alien Aesop, so expect that in a week or two. Chapter 2 is gonna be a doozy :)

Here's to everyone's economic empowerment...

Paul "Poverty Killa" Campillo


We > I

[dropcap type="2"]W[/dropcap]eek 9 and 10 are over, 42 more to go. As you can tell, I missed a week, and that doesn't mean that this will be a long update. SCOREBOARD: [box type="blank" class="bg-blue rounded-10"] [columns width="1/2"]

Total Earnings

Driving: $158

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Bank Account

$221.40

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Bank Statement 10-10-12
Bank Statement 10-10-12

Update

It's been an eventful couple of weeks for me. I went on Craigslist applied to contract with a couple of places that I feel would fit my skill set AND still do something that I would enjoy. We'll see what comes up.

I've also decided to go all in on my next book, and plan to release it December 25, 2012. Merry Christmas. I've just released a teaser video for the book:

And as for the book title, it could still change, but I like the direction it's taking:

WTF Book Cover Design

I've also did a final redesign of the 8 Life Pillars. Soon I will be brainstorming courses, workshops, and app ideas around this concept. It's gone from butt-ugly to its current iteration. Check out the progression from 2005 until today:

Made these first two in MS Word. The only difference between the two was the changing the language of Career to Service and Education to Learning. Service is all encompassing, more inclusive. And Learning sounds like a more active process than education. Thanks to my friend Mark for that contribution.

Here's where I wanted to make it more graphical. Of course, I was just beginning to play with design apps, but this was my first effort. Of course, the Base of this particular iteration only had the mind as our primary source of everything. Of course, after thinking about it, I changed it.

The second is not so much different from the first. The changes to the Base were made to reflect my understanding of what's at our deepest core.

And now I'm just getting fancier using some shading effects and shadows. Don't know why I chose yellow, but I was just creating.

That last version had too much going on in the actual pillars. Now I'm sliding my design to a more minimal look. Just the icon, and the pillar name at the bottom. I liked where it was going, but I wan't even remotely satisfied.

Then I thought, why not use actual pillars? Of course, going off the last few iterations I decided to keep using color to differentiate each pillar. If you haven't guessed, I was using the chakra color scheme that I associated with each particular pillar.Then I got tired of the colors, and wanted to make the entire design more uniform. Let the icons speak for themselves. Still kept the pillars, but it just wasn't satisfying.

Then I just got sick of thinking about it, and outsourced a design from someone experienced in these matters. I saw his portfolio and thought he would do an excellent job. Too bad he didn't...

Finally, I got rid of using graphical looking pillars. It was so unnecessary. I did use a stone type image to maintain the feel of the pillars. I felt really good about this one.

Then I figured, why the big ol' fat pillars? Why not minimize the design completely, and place the emphasis on the key areas? Done.

And now the final conclusion. I changed the Organization and Learning icons to something I felt was more representative of each pillar.

8LP - Final VersionMoving on...

The Cost Of Independence

In order to reach my goal, as I've stated, I'm going to have to multiply myself and my work. That means books, ebooks, courses, workshops, etc.

So that means an inordinate amount of time developing, creating, refining, editing, testing, researching, practicing and rehearsing. I realize the level of effort and commitment it takes to make this all work.

Writing a book is no easy chore. It requires a lot of thought, organization, and consideration for the reader. Developing a course or teaching anything that promises results requires the same amount of attention and effort.

And this must all be done to a very high level in order to reach who I want to reach, and do the things I want to do.

But I also realize that I can't do it all myself. Brainstorming with friends, talking it over with colleagues who are working on similar projects, and bringing in outside expertise to help refine the message are ideas I MUST be receptive to.

If you don't know me, I am very independent, and rely mostly on myself. And this has hurt me. It has cost me so much. This will NOT get me to where I want to go, and I will never, ever be able to accomplish anything of great significance as long as this software is running my system.

So this means I've got to ask for more help. I've got to reach out to others. I've got to network with a purpose. When I think of networking, it means giving. Lots of giving.

I've never had a problem with giving. I'd give everything I have to others, and never ask for anything in return. And I'm sure I'll continue to do that. But at some point I have to monetize my value whether it's asking for favors or getting a key introduction.

I've got 42 weeks left, and time is flying.

Independence is an important step to take in everybody's life. But it's still not the highest level. Interdependence, working with others, building and co-creating with a team (even if it's three people), is how we reach our highest potential. It is the ONLY way.

Dependence ---> Independence ---> Interdependence

I hope we're all moving in that direction, but as for me, it's time to take that step.

What's Next

More writing, more reading and research, more designing, more hustle, and more video.

Video is my next step, and until I get comfortable in front of a camera, my reach will be limited. And that means my growth will be stunted. There's nothing else I need to do to prepare for it. I just have to practice and do it everyday.

Have a great week and stay tuned.

Paul "No -I- in TEAM" Campillo


Just Because You're Good At Something

[dropcap type="2"]W[/dropcap]eek 6 is complete. Gonna keep this one short (I think). SCOREBOARD:

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Total Earnings

Driving: $141.00

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Bank Account

$149.11

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Bank Account 9-12-2012

Quick Story

My Dad is a weird guy. If you ever thought I was strange, then believe me, you ain't seen nothing yet. But I digress.

There are many things to admire the man for, but I'll choose one. He sticks by his convictions, no matter what. His integrity is rock solid, and is stubbornly unshakable. Those are mere words, but trust me, being around someone like that has some major impact on you, especially if you're around them a lot.

Case in point. My Dad fought in the Vietnam War, and he was happy to go and fight for his country. He would've gladly fought in the Korean War, but they wouldn't take him (too young).

Now, there's only one problem with this whole "fight for your country" scenario. Dad is a pacifist. I mean real deal, super non-violent pacifist. I'm not quite sure if he would actually hurt a fly or not, but he certainly wouldn't kill anyone if he had the choice. No way, Jose.

Adding to this drama, he just happened to be in Vietnam during the Tet Offensive in 1968. If you don't know what the Tet Offensive is, then look it up. It's considered by many who were there to be the turning point of the war. In other words, things got bloody for everyone.

And of all the times he's been shot at during this period, he refused to shoot and kill others. Yet, he wanted to stay there, work as a mechanic, and support the American forces in any way he could.

Coward? Nope, he wanted to be there. Pacifist? Yes, but still a patriot to the very end.

Now let's add one more interesting bit of trivia to the mix...

Pops was an expert marksman. He could take you out from a distance. You know, like, KILL SHOT.

Yet, he refused to use this one skill. And he refused to use it because it didn't jibe with his values. He maintained his integrity at all costs, even when his very life was at stake.

Here's the takeaway...

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Just because you have a skill doesn't mean you NEED to use it.

Just because you're GREAT at something, doesn't mean it will bring you joy and fulfillment.

And just because you've done a particular job for years or even decades, and you get paid well to do it, doesn't mean it brings out the passion and excitement that makes you feel more ALIVE.

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Thanks Dad.

The Flip Side

There's a flip side to this lesson, of course. Let me illustrate.

This past Sunday and into Monday, I have been working with a friend who has a phobia of driving on the freeway (Back in 2004-5 when I had a ton of coaching clients, I dealt with many a phobia).

Now, if you ever had a phobia or know of someone with one, then you know how irrational it can seem, but you also know how REAL that feeling is when the symbol of their fear is present.

And many times the symbol of a particular phobia is not even related to the actual cause of the phobia. For example, in her case, nothing traumatic ever happened to her on the freeway. It seemingly came out of nowhere.

And before we worked on it together, she had already met with a therapist for some time and also tried meds to no avail.

Just to be clear, she CAN drive the streets and backstreets just fine, but when it comes to getting on that on-ramp, anxiety levels rise. And if she gets on the freeway, panic ensues, and she drives 40-50 mph while frantically looking for the next exit (I know, I was with her when I did my usual baseline test).

Long story short, after walking her through some exercises, we got on the freeway and she was able to go further than she had ever gone since that first panic attack. She still had anxiety, and was almost in panic mode, but not with the same intensity.

After doing her exercises the next day, she got back on the freeway without me, and although she still wasn't going the speed limit, her anxiety levels dropped some more.

Today, Wednesday, I got the following text from her:

"Up to 65. Anxiety level 0."

It's been a couple of years since she was able to accomplish that feat.

I then asked her how she felt, and her response was, "It's indescribable."

AWESOME!

And here's why I bring this up. As I stated earlier, just because you're good at something doesn't mean you should keep doing it, especially if it doesn't make you happy, excited, and feel more alive.

But the flip side is...

What if you're good at something that you're currently not doing enough of (like knocking out phobias in hours)?

Maybe you ought to consider doing more of something because it happens to make you excited, happy, and feel more alive.

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What skills have you been shelving for another day, that bring out the best in you and others?

What knowledge do you have that you've been keeping to yourself, but if you put it out there, could impact someone's life in the most beneficial way?

What activities bring you more joy, more peace, more passion than anything and everything else, but you don't do them because more 'important' things need to get done?

What else do you have that's laying dormant, but when awoken, will bring more life and beauty to the world?

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Next Steps

I'm working on various projects now, with more paid work coming down the pipeline for Value Detectives, once folks get their material together.

I'm revamping Wake Up Smiling right now, which may take some time, but I'm excited about the possibilities.

I'm laying the groundwork for products I want to develop, doing the market research, checking my excitement meter, and forming mind-maps.

As things crystallize, I will post more specific details here.

Hope you have a WONDER-FULL week...

Paul 'Phobia Killa' Campillo