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The Big Goal
It’s always great to dream big, and fantasize about the kind of world you want to live in.
When you ask yourself what you really, really want, you may be surprised by your answers.
I recently did this exercise, and allowed myself to dream as big as I wanted, and was surprised that my imagination didn’t necessarily produce super lofty goals because the desires I have seem to remain the same over time.
I won’t list everything, but let’s take a look at some of the highlights (not in any particular order):[list type=”pointerlist2″]
- Have $50,000 in the bank by August 1, 2013
- Speak in front of hundreds of people (I don’t have to do this often, just a few times. I prefer smaller audiences)
- Write three bestselling books (1 published traditionally, 2 self-published)
- Travel around the world (Siberia, India, Spain, Portugal, Argentina, Philippines, Russia are top of my list)
- Shoot a documentary
- Go surfing, skydiving, canyoning (again), and sailboating.
- Create transformational workshops, courses, and trainings around Wake Up Smiling concepts.
- Build business ideas with strong teams (Social Tale-Spin and Everybody’s Famous)
- Create an 8 Life Pillar app
- Build a strong network of relationships
- Invest money in other people’s start-up ideas and support them in their businesses
- Live from my heart first, then my mind
- Keep vibrantly healthy and in tune with my body
- Be in a committed relationship to a woman that makes me wake up smiling
- Earn at least $1 million dollars a year in income
And that’s the short list, even though the meatiest parts are up there. And looking at this list, I can say without hesitation that I really believe I can accomplish all of it. Of course, not all of those listed are “accomplishments” because building a strong support network of friends/business partners and being in a committed relationship with one person is an ongoing, continuous process.
Obviously, some of the list requires more detail and specific end dates, but I’ll take care of that later.
The point is, this is my version of dreaming BIG, and I know that as I move towards these goals, more opportunities will avail themselves, and what I’ll be able to accomplish will expand.
It’s been my experience that whole new paths open up as I move into action and start making some serious progress, and then it’s up to me whether I take those paths when they present themselves, or stay the course.
Having a list like this is great, and everybody ought to have one. But as I look at the list, a thought knocks me over the head…
Paying The Price
When I have big dreams and have set lofty goals, the one question that I forget to ask myself is:
What’s the price I have to pay for ‘x’?
You ever think of that? What’s the price you’re going to have to pay to get something? To achieve that? To accomplish such and so?
What price are you willing to pay to make that dream a reality?
Practicing, rehearsing, and building those habits is the price you have to pay.
The hundreds of hours of piano lessons you put in, so you can play competently in front of others.
The daily grind of speaking a language that sounds so awful coming out of your mouth that you wonder how you can continue, but still motivated by the idea that one day you will speak it fluently.
The exercising and walking each day to get your weight back to sanity or the torturous process of sculpting your abs for that beach body look.
The discipline of writing everyday no matter what, and posting it for others to see and critique, because you know your work will improve with time.
Or how about speaking in front of strangers when ever you get a chance because one day you want to be speaking in front of hundreds of people at a time.
Watch the following video, and then answer the questions that follow.
Many people know Hugh Jackman is from Australia, and is probably best known for his role as Wolverine in the X-men series. But many also don’t realize that he’s won a Tony award, and as demonstrated from the video, is a complete performer, meaning he can sing, act, and dance while hosting the world’s most prestigious entertainment award ceremony.
But here are the pertinent questions:
How many hours of practice did he log to get to his current level of vocal ability? (FYI, his vocal skills will also be on display in the upcoming December release of Les Miserables)
How many hours of dance rehearsal and choreography has he put in to perform at this level?
How many hours of practice (singing, acting, dancing, and theater) do you think he put into doing this ONE SKIT, to pull off one of the greatest opening numbers in the history of the Oscars?
What price did he have to pay to get to perform at such a high level?
Here’s another example.
Legend has it that Stevie Wonder used to write a song a day, everyday. Now, he didn’t use them all, obviously, and more of those songs never made it to an album, let alone a single.
But still, a song a day. And that doesn’t include actually composing the music, editing, rehearsing, and playing with band members. Oh yeah, and being blind certainly has its drawbacks to the whole process, although he probably would never use that as an excuse for anything.
What price did Stevie have to pay in time and energy to hone his craft? How many hours did he invest into writing songs, composing music, rehearsing, forging strong relationships with promoters, managers, band members, and agents?
Think about how much frustration he had to endure? How many times did he get screwed over? What else did he have to sacrifice?
Paying the price is one thing. This is what you have to give in order to get something. The bigger the goal, the more you’ll have to give. Simple math.
But sacrifice is the other side of the coin. It’s what you give up in order to get something. This includes abstaining from all the fun and enjoyment, and giving up some of the everyday pleasures and comforts that nobody sees, but then ignorantly suggest that it was talent that carried the our hero to stardom.
It’s giving up the ski trip with your friends to focus on studying.
It’s not seeing your girlfriend or boyfriend for long periods of time while you’re working on a life changing project.
It’s going to war for your country, forsaking all the comforts of home life and leaving your family not knowing if you’ll return in one piece.
Here’s a definition of sacrifice I learned some time back. I think you’ll find it useful:
Sacrifice is when you give up something of value, for something of greater value.
If you’re not giving up something valuable, then there is no sacrifice, just mere exchange. And you have to give up a lot in order to realize the big dreams that seem beyond your reach, and experience the awesome life you only fantasized about living.
What am I giving up? What am I willing to give up for this greater dream?
For physical health, maybe it’s giving up sweets and the comfort that comes from NOT exercising.
For a successful and growing business, I will have to give up the ten great ideas I have and concentrate on just one. I will also have to give up recreation time, relationship time, etc.
To earn ridiculous amounts of money, I will have to give up the safety net of the past and make myself extremely vulnerable to others.
To learn a language fluently, I will have to give up the certainty I have when communicating, to sound silly, awkward, and embarrass myself while I learn.
To shoot that documentary, I will have to give up time with the people closest to me as well as every luxury, and travel to a foreign country to make a movie that may turn out to be a fruitless endeavor.
Making those sacrifice requires courage, incredible faith, and an unwavering commitment to the vision.
And even after all that, it may not even work out in the end. The endless hours, the tireless energy and effort you put into something, and everything else that suffered along the way while you pursuing your dreams may turn into nothing.
It’s easy to see why many never make that big sacrifice, and that makes settling easier to do, even justified. Why take the risk if I’m not guaranteed at least a modicum of success?
Look at your own dreams. Look at your REAL VISION, and ask yourself, are you doing everything you can to get it? Are you willing to drop everything to go after it?
When I think about it, my answer is “no”. No, I’m not doing everything I can. Not totally, and not with full abandon.
I see where I wavered, where I stepped off the practice field, where I succumbed to old habits, or just gave in and gave up.
Yet, I pick myself back up again. And I give up again.
I give up every time I don’t pay the price. Every time I don’t exercise, don’t practice, don’t rehearse, and don’t focus on what “I say” is most important to me.
The Repetitive Questions
When ever motivation is low or when I need a kick in the pants, I’ll have these questions posted nearby to remind me of what it takes to make epic sh*t happen.
What price am I willing to pay for my dream?
What sacrifices am I willing to make?
What’s the price that I will have to pay for mastery or to be a high level performer?
And the practical side to all of this is in my answers.
I’m going to have to write for three hours a day, at least five days a week, and not one second less.
I’m going to have to start producing videos at least once a week.
I’m going to have to increase the intensity of my workouts.
I’m going to have to offer a lot of my work for free.
I’m going to have to join Toastmasters (again), and attend consistently.
I’m going to have to spend hours of concentrated time creating products, and the corresponding offers that g0 with them.
In other words, it’s time to step the f*** up!
See y’all next week.
Paul “Payin’ the Cost” Campillo